Guest Post: Comparison, Thief Of Joy
Dear dancers and parents,
This week's topic was chosen and written by one of my private coaching dancers, Samantha, who trains at a conservatory. If you struggle with comparing yourself to others, as many dancers do, you might find this perspective helpful.
Comparison is often labeled the thief of joy; but what if it isn't? What if it's simply a matter of perspective?
Hello, I'm Samantha, and I've struggled with comparison in dance for quite some time. I would constantly find myself comparing my abilities to those of others in dance, school, and various aspects of life. I wanted her feet, his jumps, and so on.
Comparing had become an ingrained habit, making it challenging to break free from its grip as a dancer. However, over time, I managed to transform my negative perception of comparison into a positive one. I began to view my fellow dancers as sources of inspiration and guidance, essentially visualizing them as “moving blueprints."
While receiving corrections from a teacher is valuable, there are instances when it's difficult to grasp how to execute a correction solely through verbal instruction. In those moments, observing my classmates' execution of the same corrections proved helpful. By closely watching their movements, I learn from their actions, gaining a better understanding of how to implement the corrections mentally and physically.
Through this process, I have gathered a wealth of knowledge from my peers. I observe both their successes and failures, seeing what works well for them and what doesn't. This enables me to make informed decisions about my own technique, particularly in areas such as turns, balances, and more. Rather than comparing myself to any particular individual, I have shifted my perspective to one of positive comparison and learning from the diverse range of "moving blueprints" around me.
It is true that comparison can rob us of joy. However, by altering our negative outlook and adopting a positive mindset, we can turn comparison into a method for personal growth. Not only will we improve our physical abilities through learning, but also, we will cultivate a kinder and more compassionate attitude toward ourselves.
— Samantha, a conservatory student
Thank you to Samantha for sharing her shifting perspective with us! As with many things in life, once you find a way of looking at things that works for you, it can open doors and growth in ways you never imagined. It also strengthens your mental flexibility muscles.
If you have challenges in the studio that you can't find solutions for, I encourage you to set up a Discovery Session with me. It's over the phone, free, and totally painless. ;) All sessions can be scheduled here.
Be well,
Elizabeth
